At 38, although I'm far from over the hill, I'm considered a woman of a certain age...
Yes, the life I have today is not quite the one I envisaged 20 years ago as a young woman.
So if you're not giving off 'young' (equals fertile), you're going home alone. If I go to a bar and the place is packed with young women, I feel myself shrink. In my close circle of friends, there are eight of us who are single and childless.
This is a generational phenomenon - we are all aged between 37 and 45.
Now that I am, there are very few available men out there and the ones there are would be more interested in my teenage nieces than in me... Any woman who has visited the hell that is internet dating will tell you she's had to knock at least five years off her age to be in the right 'bracket'.
They helped to demoralise the family guy culture amongst men, making it more difficult for the next generation of women, even those who were more traditionally minded.
And by wasting years of their own lives, they wasted years of the lives of many men.
At that time, the women I socialised with had decided to make marriage a low priority.
It was something to be pushed off until some time in your 30s, even your late 30s.
She admits that she was led into the magical kind of thinking I described earlier in which there is nothing in reality to limit having things as you want them to be ("we didn't realise that men wouldn't be interested ... And so Bibi, who was "constantly surrounded" by men in her 20s, has ended up unhappily alone ("I feel I've moved from independent and vibrant to sad spinster.") I know some men will respond "serve them right".