According to Beatty, emotional manipulators are only concerned about their own needs and wants.
If you try to have open and honest conversation about moments when you feel hurt or invalidated, you will be shut down with claims that you are being silly or overeating.
If they agree, introduce them to the phrasing: 'I felt____ when you____.
According to relationship experts, emotional manipulators prey on your vulnerabilities and often use your own words against you in order to get what they want - and just when you have hit your breaking point, they lure you back in with a touching apology and the promise of change.
Someone who is an emotional manipulator will always make their partner question the validity of their feelings.
On the flip side, an emotional manipulator who refuses to communicate their needs will get angry when you don't meet them, leaving you constantly waiting for them to get upset about something you've unknowingly failed to do.
It's not dramatic, kissing-in-the-rain, rom-com love. Instead, it's the kind best summed up by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros when they say ‘’home is wherever I’m with you.’’ Indeed, true emotional intimacy gives a couple a sense of simply , and, as psychologist and marriage counselor Dr Rich Nicastro puts it: ‘’It is intimacy in marriage (or the intimacy in a committed relationship) that has the potential to elevate the relationship above all others.’’In other words, if you want a bond that is going to last happily, intimacy is the key.
What’s the best way, then, to ensure that you and your partner are encouraging emotional intimacy in your relationship?Patty Blue Hayes, an author and life coach specializing in heartbreak recovering, told Daily Mail Online that if 'your partner falls into the category of an emotional manipulator, it is likely you may have some limiting beliefs about your self-worth'.