He may be overwhelmed by the force of her personality and worry that he will be forced to be the inferior partner in the relationship.
Or he may just be the sort of person who prefers a quieter, demure, more “feminine” personality. While there are plenty who can appreciate an outgoing partner – one who would compliment them, be the yang to their yin – more are likely to feel steamrolled by someone so dominant.
Showing genuine interest or honest appreciation in his accomplishments or hobbies can also help him overcome feelings of “What could she possibly see in me?
” And I do mean genuine; shy, geeky guys are perpetually concerned that people are secretly making fun of them.
There is no reason why you should try to force yourself to be someone you’re not in order to meet somebody else’s criteria.
Now, that having been said: you want to consider toning down your behavior somewhat. Some women, especially women with strong opinions and a willingness to express them, can seem angry or stand-offish to guys.
Others were late bloomers or women who have had few female role models in their lives.
Some were tomboys growing up and take pride in being one of the guys.
Many guys – especially introverts – can find this upsetting or discomforting.
He may feel as though he’s going to have to put on a performance in order to keep up with her.
Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.
After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.
The more beautiful or desirable a woman, the more she can have her pick of men.