If that didn’t turn her off, then the subsequent emails from the same men asking why she was an ageist definitely did.
It’s okay to state some basic requirements, such as whether you’re willing to date someone who smokes or who has children.
“All kinds of people are doing it,” says Caploe, 54, a publisher who lives in New York City.
“It was—unbelievably—not a crazy experience.” Online dating has certainly lost its lonely-hearts stigma.
When we meet a potential love interest in person, we’re taught to look for certain red flags—like being rude to the waiter, calling incessantly or not at all, or claiming that his favorite book is The Da Vinci Code.
When we’re choosing potential dates online, though, we sometimes have little more than a picture and a paragraph to go on.
Some practiced daters have a standard letter they send to every single person they find even mildly attractive.
Someone who truly wants to get to know you will take the time to write a personalized message responding to specific items in your profile, not send a generic cut-and-paste letter saying, “Hey girl, I saw your profile and was intrigued …” Think about the hundreds of other people who’ve gotten the same letter, and decide whether you’re willing to accept only the barest minimum of effort.
Watching out for these warning signs can make it easier to take a relationship from email to in-person.
That is, until you receive a message or phone call confessing that the picture he sent wasn’t really him, and that he’s actually five years older than he claimed, but now that you’ve gotten to know him, that shouldn’t be a problem, right? The intent is to trick potential dates into falling for their “inner beauty,” but all this ruse really reveals about someone is that he’s a liar.